When we encounter the word “single parent”, we often think of moms, don’t we? It’s always a rare chance to bump into single dads. There’s also a notion that dads are clueless with raising children. And in raising children, challenges are inevitable. There are just days that you want to drop everything, but of course, you can’t!
Since my blog is basically focused on awareness, I want to share this guest blog post Daniel of Dads Solo wrote for me. I’m sure some of you can relate whether you’re also a single parent or you’re a child of a single parent. Wanna know how single dads overcome challenges in life? Then keep reading!
No matter how your divorce went, being a single parent is tough. It seems like there aren’t enough hours in the day to get everything done, and even if you have family in the area, it’s tough to have a social life. It’s all worth it, of course, but that doesn’t make it easier.
But when you’re a single dad, things can be even harder. Society doesn’t respect fathers trying to raise a kid on their own. Thankfully, you can read on to learn some tips for overcoming the challenges in your life as a single dad.
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The Truth About Single Dads
Some people believe fathers are clueless and unable to effectively raise children on their own. As CNN notes, there’s a myth about the bumbling dad prevalent in our culture. Just watch television. Whether it’s a show or a commercial, single dads are portrayed as unable to help their children. The important thing is this portrayal can start to make you think like that as well, even when you know that’s not true.
The truth is that fathers face incredible pressure to be both a parent and a breadwinner. Even if you can find a job with a flexible schedule and have family around to help supervise your children, single fathers often have a stigma attached to them simply because they are men. That only puts extra pressure on you.
Taking Care Of Your Children
With all those myths and pressures on your shoulders, it’s hard to know how to raise your children well. After all, they are your responsibility. Thankfully, there are some ways you can be a better father.
The Spruce lists several tips for single dads. Creating routines for your family can help take some of the load off. By teaching your kids when dinner will be ready and what bedtime will be like, you don’t have to come up with plans on the fly. And don’t forget to have fun! Take some time to play games with your kids, and try being silly with them when you can. Sometimes, just a fun voice or bad joke can help make your kids enjoy the time with you that much more.
You also need to create a support team. No matter how skilled and energetic you are, you cannot be everywhere. Talk to your family, friends, and neighbors and see how they can help supervising or playing with your kids.
Don’t Neglect Yourself
Speaking of support, you cannot forget about your own needs as a single dad. Otherwise, you will soon burn out and feel overwhelmed all the time. According to Drugrehab.org, the way we eat, drink, love, and cope with stress, depression, anxiety, and sadness all play a big role in the state our mental health is in. Sometimes, it’s necessary to take a step back and ask yourself if you’re doing the right thing for you, and not the easiest thing.
To help with this, be sure to keep up your physical health. By taking care of your body, you can likewise take care of your mental health. Eat right, get some sleep, and go exercise with your kids with a walk or bike ride.
You also have to learn how to forgive yourself. Every parent makes mistakes, and being a single parent is harder. If you make a mistake somewhere along the line, it’s not because you’re that mythical bumbling dad — it’s because things happen and you cannot be perfect.
Enjoy Being A Single Dad
While you know you’re fortunate to have kids, that doesn’t make it any easier. Just know that you can be a single father and still be a great parent no matter what society says. Build a support team, have fun with your kids, and don’t neglect your own needs. This way, you can be there for your children without ignoring yourself.
Bae is a 20-something passion blogger from Manila. She likes hoarding hobbies and trying out new stuff, blogging about her mundane adventures, and tweeting about random realizations and musings.