Q&A: Getting to know Bae
Have you ever looked at something and felt so inspired, like you think to yourself, “Wow, I want to do so many things because of you? I want to accomplish this and that? I want to dream big dreams?” Yes? Good, because I’m looking at it right now. I’m not exactly sure if it is the main reason, but I know that it has a big contribution to it, but ever since I changed my theme, which is honestly just a small thing, I had this itch to just write, write, write.
Aesthetics really hold some kind of impact, if I may say so myself, considering that my new theme doesn’t look so different from the previous one. In fact, it looks plainer. But maybe that’s the thing. Less is more. And sometimes, less makes us want to do more.
I just wrote a Life Lately post, so I’ll go ahead and do one of those “getting to know you and me” sort of volume. I don’t have a specific category for this, so I guess this one will fall under random.
I looked up some tag questions on knowing someone better, specifically for bloggers, and I couldn’t kind any that suited the questions I find most fitting to answer for someone to know me more, but I found this list which contains more than the cliché “what’s your favorite?” questions.
Here we go. 🙂
Describe your most embarrassing moment
How do I even start? I have too many embarrassing moments, but I think my encounter with a guy in a club would top the list. I know I blogged about this before, but let me share it again. One fine Sunday morning (it was already 3 am at that time if I’m right, we just crossed Saturday over), I was too drunk to care about my words, and I was simply too frank (and somewhat rude if that reflected towards some people). I know there are dos and donts during social events and somehow they all escaped my head when the alcohol started kicking in. I was dancing with this guy and my system was taken over by too much liquor. He smelled really good, I liked how he had a nice pair of guns (layman’s term: biceps), but my stupid mouth just had to ask if he was gay because I found his voice too squeaky, and yes I told him that without batting an eyelash. And to rub salt in the wound, I had to snatch the bottle of beer from his hand and take a swig.
To be fair, he was a complete gentleman. He didn’t punch me or anything for being gross or rude, for which I’m grateful. He even asked several times if I was okay because he saw me in the comfort room and I looked like the complete opposite of fine. But like any other person who gets turned off, he dropped the “I’ll just go to the restroom” line and we all know what that means: I’m never going back. It was both embarrassing and humiliating (yes, there’s a difference), but at that time, I was on full blown flirt mode so when everything came back to my memory the next day, this time in a clearer version and with the perspective of a third person, I couldn’t help but cringe.
I tried to get his number to apologize but my friend told me that he said there was nothing to be sorry about, that things happen. I took it as is, but the next time I see him, even if there’s a slim chance of that happening, I swear I’ll behave. If there’s a takeaway from this experience, it’s to stop walking around drunk and asking men if they’re gay, because if they are, they wouldn’t even dance with you in the first place. Think about it.
What are five passions you have?
I’m passionate towards writing, that’s for sure. I’m passionate about art and artists, in general. I don’t know why it took so long for any sort of art to make an impact on my life, but I’m glad it did. It may have taken me awhile to appreciate it, but now I can say my world revolves around it. I’m passionate about helping others whenever I can, but sometimes I have to remind myself not to be too generous or I will have nothing else for me. I’m passionate about learning, period. I’m not book smart, but I aim to be street smart. I’m curious how people interact with each other, how certain events occur and how we can tackle them, how a certain object can be looked at from different angles, and all that jazz. Most of all, I’m passionate about how I use my time intentionally to do the things I love.
It may be a slow Sunday for others, or for most of us, but honestly speaking, there’s no any other way I would choose to spend my Sunday. I’m completely happy just tapping away on my keyboard and listening to instrumentals on Spotify while cherishing the most that I could get from the aftermath of the rain – the cool ambience, that feeling that you don’t have to rush on anything because it’s Sunday and chores are already done, and the fact that there’s no work. Pure bliss, sister.
What is the thing you most wish you were great at?
I wish I were great on a lot of things. I wish I were a better writer. I wish I had more passion towards cooking. I wish I had a nice singing voice. But all those are just small things. One thing I wish I were great at is being kind to myself when I think I’ve failed, which I tend to think most of the time. I wish I were great at being calm and at not worrying about anything and everything.
I am a worry-wart by nature and I tend to dwell on things that took a hard hit on my life. That’s one thing I really need to change about myself. Maybe it has its good side like it’s a constant reminder for me to not make the same mistakes, but then again, being the worrier that I already am, it just kinda makes things worse sometimes, you know?
What is your love language?
Okay, I had to Google this one to know what it means. I’m so cute, I know I’ve read this before, but I’ve completely forgotten about the love languages already.
There are five love languages, namely:
- Words of Affirmation: Expressing affection through spoken affection, praise, or appreciation.
- Acts of Service: Actions, rather than words, are used to show and receive love.
- Receiving Gifts: Gifting is symbolic of love and affection.
- Quality Time: Expressing affection with undivided, undistracted attention.
- Physical Touch: It can be sex or holding hands. With this love language, the speaker feels affection through physical touch.
It’s pretty easy to identify which ones you’d pick, assuming you know yourself well enough, but I still took the test to be sure. Here is the result:
|7||Acts of Service|
|4||Words of Affirmation|
Physical touch – A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, and thoughtful touches on the arm—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive. Appropriate and timely touches communicate warmth, safety, and love to you.
According to the result, physical touch is my strongest game. Admittedly, I am a touchy person, and I’m glad Jec is, too. LOL. Before the test, I had to choose if I am single or in a relationship. I had to choose single because, technically, we’re both still single. Aside from physical intimacy, I believe acts of service do make a huge impact for me when in a relationship. It’s the little things that matter, like helping me out with a chore, giving me a small gift for when I’ve been stressed for an entire week, in the hope of helping me relax, reminding of some things when I get too forgetful, and the like.
What do you think people misunderstand most about you?
I want to say I’m a complicated person, but I’m not. But it irks me when people misinterpret my actions and words because they would rather look at the facade rather than behind the curtain. I usually don’t act out of spontaneity, and even if I do, I have my reasons, and when people start judging me for my actions, that’s what ticks me off.
I think most people take that I’m too strong-willed, but I only am because I am actually a softy deep inside. And being that I am, I have to look for ways to protect myself. On the other hand, some people think that I’m too meek and vulnerable even when I am already showing a lot of conviction. I don’t get it sometimes, but I guess it’s not my job to find out what people think about me because, truth be told, it’s actually none of my business. I personally don’t like when people read me unless I ask them to. There’s that.
So this supposedly quick Q&A took me a bit longer to write, but I don’t mind. I love writing long blog posts and I hope you enjoy reading them as well.
If you have some things you want to share with me or if you want to grab the questions and answer them on your own blog, be my guest, oh and don’t forget to tag me! I’d love to read them. 🙂
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