I’m currently having one of my episodes where, instead of celebrating how far I’ve come, I’m looking at my body just feeling disgusted about it. And instead of fuming about it, I decided to just write about it and hopefully leave personal tips on how to love yourself and your body more for what it is and what it can do for you despite all your flaws and your tendency to think otherwise about it.
I know we all have our own fitness journeys, our own stories to tell, or maybe we don’t since some of us haven’t started on it, if there are actually plans to do so. Maybe it’s the hormones, or the lack of a womanly vibe ever since I chopped off my hair to a semi-pixie cut or the hard fact that despite my attempts to stay as fit as I could, I still gained weight over the holidays. Whatever the reason is, I don’t feel good about my body lately and I’d like to change it right now.
I know we should love our body more than hate it, but there are just days where we feel down and off. Apparently, today is that day for me.
As with my yoyo weight journey, I also had my yoyo moments with my thoughts. There were days I felt too fabulous to be insulted about my flab, days when I felt empowered, strong, and relentless, days when I had to just let it all out and cry about my frustrations, and there were also days that I felt good about my body and I let myself give in to a temptation or two.
Along my fitness journey, I learned some things about me and my body – what ticked me off, what put me in a good mood, what made me feel good about my body, and what makes me wipe off my tears, dust off my trainers, and feel good about myself – and my body – all over again.
With that, I’d like to share with you some of my feel-good tips for more body positivity and love (and how to feel good about it even if you feel really, really crappy towards it):
Masterpiece, wow, big word.
Masterpiece – all these scars, stretch marks, love handles, and a lack of motivation for anything fitness-related and a craving for nothing but fast food and soda?
Yes, all of it.
It’s hard to look for something beautiful when you refuse to see it. What you think, you become. And if you think more positively towards your body, that optimistic vibe will shine through and people will see it. Do you even know how hard your body is working every single day to keep you alive? Have you acknowledged it even once in your life? And if you start to believe in your capabilities, man, your body can do so much more for you than you think it can. The human body is so amazing. It heals you from the inside and on the outside. It cleanses your organs and repairs your skin from wounds.
If you want to look at things more spiritually, let God do the talking. He created us out of His image and likeness. If he’s awesome, then we are, too, don’t you think?
Whenever I feel disappointed for not having my body goal, still, despite my efforts to work out and to eat as clean as I could, I know it’s not enough, and the only way that I will be genuinely and whole-heartedly happy about my progress is when I fully accept my body for what it is. I can only do much to look the way I want, everything else is genetics or how God molded me. I can’t really blame enough for how I look. I shouldn’t be blaming anyone anyway in the first place.
Even if I relapse or take a setback, looking at my progress photos, I can’t help but still be proud of how far I’ve come and how huge I’ve accomplished for myself – for the health of my body and my mind. Even if I’m 10 pounds heavier from my best built, the fact that I did it once only proves that I can do it again, because why not, right? As cliché as it may be, if there’s a will, there’s a way. And if you have this burning passion to do something, you will put every ounce of energy you can to accomplish it. Also, learn to shush your inner critic and don’t be so hard on yourself. Great things take time and stop measuring your progress based on how fast you got to your “after photo”. It’s all about the journey and the lessons you pick up along the way.
To be honest, there’s nothing more empowering than being surrounded with people who believe in your capabilities even when you, yourself, don’t or can’t. When you mingle with people who have the same goals that you have, you are giving them the liberty to inspire you, to motivate you, and to guide you throughout your journey. When others do not understand your insecurities, struggles, and doubts, these people do. More so, they constantly leave you with lessons that you will eventually carry with you wherever you go and under any circumstance.
As with other things besides fitness and health, find people with wings made of the same flock that you can fly with. Stop listening to the naysayers because, obviously, they won’t do you any good. You might as well tell yourself to give up if you’re only going to let your world revolve around their negative comments and doubt-filled opinions. So with that, find people who understand your goals and who would be willing to pick you up when you feel down.
Before anyone else does, be the first to believe in yourself. Because if all else fails, you only have yourself. Be your own best friend, that person you can always rely on, that person who can pick you up when no one else would, that person you can trust anything and everything with, that person who will show you light when you only see the darkness.
When no one else would support your dreams and believe that your goals are achieveble, that you can conquer anything when you put your whole heart to it, do it yourself. Support you.
These fitness/life hacks are simple but really effective for me. Reading this, I hope you know by now that even if I look so motivated all the time to workout, I’m not. I have my low days too and not everything is good and smooth-sailing.
If you’re going through the same thing or think you’re about to, don’t hesitate to give me a heads-up and I’ll do my best to cheer you up.
Leave a comment here or chat me up through my socials, in public or in private, whichever you’re more comfortable with.
May you see beauty in everything, including your body.
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Bae is a 20-something passion blogger from Manila. She likes hoarding hobbies and trying out new stuff, blogging about her mundane adventures, and tweeting about random realizations and musings.