Yesterday afternoon after working, I went to the park with only one thing in my mind: clear my head. In the process of
jogging brisk walking strolling, I started thinking about myself and what’s going on in my life lately, and so I tried to look from a third person’s perspective while still touching my emotional core, then an idea popped into my head.
Why not write a blog post about this?
How can you actually make a better version out of your present self and appreciate everything that’s happening in your life, whether they’re graceful or tactless?
I had neither paper nor pen with me. I only had my house keys and phone despite planning to hit the gym after the park. But I had my phone. That’s the important thing. So I started recording my thoughts on video even though I could feel hot stares on my back for being that girl who walked and talked though it was obvious I wasn’t talking to anybody because my phone was turned upside down.
These are my simple tips on how to be a better you or how to focus on yourself and embrace your singlehood. Although this is not particularly targeted towards single people like I am, it would still be better to focus on yourself once in a while regardless if you have a partner or none.
#1: Focus on yourself. Focus on your passions, on your health, on your activities, and stop looking for happiness from other people or from other things.
#2: Find something that you love. Find a new hobby if you haven’t already. Find something that interests you and then take it from there. Learn a new craft, focus on that, hone your skills, and share your newfound craft to other people.
#3: If you’re single, stop looking for love. Because love will find you once it sees that you’re doing something that you love. It will automatically come to you. You don’t have to look for it, you don’t have to beg for it, you don’t have to buy it.
#4: If you have a partner, find ways on how you can improve your relationship and stop finding faults at what you do and focus on the good side. Focus on the good light. Help each other improve, focus on your strengths. Turn your weaknesses into strengths. Always communicate. Find your balance. And just stop looking at each others’ flaws and stop recording your wrong doings.
#5: Find peace in solitude. Even if you’re alone, it doesn’t mean that you’re lonely. You have to find something that you love by yourself and for yourself. It doesn’t have to be something big or extravagant. As long as you’re enjoying your own company, you will automatically stop searching happiness from other people or other things. And in the pursuit of finding success in something that you love or in the process of seeking happiness within yourself, you have to be brave. You have to take risks because you never know that the chances you lose, you might never get back. But it’s also important to take your mind with your heart and not think with your heart alone. More often than not, when we finally find that certain something that we are happy about, we stop searching for happiness from other sources, and that’s the beauty of solitude. It’s okay to be alone, to not have someone else with you because you’re enjoying your own company.. even if sometimes you don’t want to.
This could be the shortest and most random blog post I will ever write, and while I type this after 36 hours of recording it, I still don’t know if it makes sense, but I will publish it anyway because one way or another, someone might need this piece of word. Maybe one way or another, it sheds some light to those who are having
a lot of some questions in their heads lately.
Either way, I appreciate that you took a time from your day to read this. Stay fresh.
Happy weekend ahead,
Bae is a 20-something passion blogger from Manila. She likes hoarding hobbies and trying out new stuff, blogging about her mundane adventures, and tweeting about random realizations and musings.